What can we do together that will make a difference right now?
What can we do that will make things better right now?
How will it show if things are going well and who will notice?
What will you be doing if things are better and who will notice?
How can we work together in a respectful way?
How can we together in a way you enjoy?
How can we hold in mind your hopes and dreams for the future?
What are your dreams and how can we help you to go in the right direction?
How can I help you become the parent/family/child you hope to be?
How can I help you at the moment?